Dear Soulmate,

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are.” (Bach, R.)

Dear Soulmate,

We have been together now for over three years, although in all honesty it feels more like a lifetime (in the good kind of way of course!).  We could never have known what was coming our way, then again, when do you ever really know what’s coming up next in life?  We have been through way more than I ever thought was possible in just a short three years but one thing always remained a constant, we were a team, and we are a team.  After all, “teamwork makes the dream work!”  We stick together no matter what and we do whatever necessary to push forward to overcome each and every obstacle that is put in our way.  You have been my rock when I was ready to throw in the towel and give up and you always help me to see the positive in situations, even when I REALLY don’t want to.  I have never had any doubt in my mind that you wouldn’t be there right beside me ready to weather whatever storm was headed in our direction.  You are one of the strongest parts of “my tribe” and I would not still be as strong and determined as I am if you weren’t on my side.  I know I can frustrate you…sometimes a lot, but it’s never meant to be in a hurtful or ungrateful way.  You get up every single day and head to work and then you come home, make dinner, help with homework, and help me with whatever I might need.  I am a little stubborn, ok maybe a lot stubborn and I’m famous for trying to push past my limits to “help”.  It’s because I see how hard you work for me and I just wish that I could repay you, even if it’s only by doing something small.  Just know that I truly appreciate you and all you do for our family so much.

I’m sorry for letting my illnesses get the best of me sometimes.  I generally respond with “I’m fine” or I don’t tell you what I’m truly feeling.  It is not because I don’t think you can handle it or I don’t think you will care, it’s just the fact that I live with my illnesses every day and the last thing I want to do is burden you with my whining or complaining.  I have a routine, I follow a strict medication schedule, and I constantly have a game plan going on in my head of how to minimize or help whatever symptoms I’m struggling with on that particular day.  Thank you for continuously asking me how I am doing or if there is anything you can do for me, even though the answer is usually the same, you never stop asking.  Please, don’t ever stop asking because even though it may seem like a pointless question, deep down I know it’s coming from a place of absolute love, you are an unbelievable person and I’m thankful for every day that I get to do life with you.

“I think as you grow older you look for very different things in people.  Honesty. Loyalty. Integrity. But most of all, you look for someone who will stand right by your side when the walls start crumbling and the fires rage within.  They are right there, and in that moment, you know they’ve got you.” (Sanders, E.).  So thank you for being honest and loyal.  Thank you for sticking by my side through it all and never making me feel guilty for becoming chronically ill.  I know “you’ve got me” and I wouldn’t trade that for anything else in the world.

We can only go up from here.

Love,

L

p.s. Wishing You All Health & Happiness!

References

Bach, R. (2013). The 10 elements of a soulmate. The Huffington Post. Retrieved from http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-carmen-harra/elements-of-a-soulmate_b_3595992.html

Sanders, E. (2016). The better man project. Retrieved from http://thebettermanprojects.com/